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Wisconsin State Rep: Abused Wives Should Remember What They Loved About Their Husbands in the First Place

Doesn't at all look like he beats his wifeOh, Wisconsin, baby, what happened to us? Don’t you remember when it used to be so sweet? It was Laverne & Shirley, and Donna Shalala at Madison, and … hell, sweetheart, why can’t I remember any more? It’s a whole lifetime ago, it seems like. It’s like I don’t even know you. And now there’s this Don Pridemore guy, cosponsoring the Single Mothers Are the Real Abusers bill and just moving right in like he owns the place. What does he give you that we didn’t, besides going on record as being against divorce even in the case of an abusive spouse?

“There’s been a huge change over the last 30 years, and a lot of that change has been the choice of the women,” he said. “If they can refind those reasons and get back to why they got married in the first place it might help.”

TMJ4 reports Pridemore also said fathers are usually the disciplinarians, and without role kids “tend to go astray.” Has anyone checked on the kids at Pridemore’s place? Hope someone gets around to that.

[TMJ4 via]

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  1. bureaucrap

    You brought it on yourselves, ladies, by mouthin' back. Now get back in that kitchen and whip me up some scrapple!

      1. chicken_thief

        The implied weight reference always puts them in their place. It doesn't matter if they are a size 0 and weigh 98 lbs soaking wet *and all women are soaking wet when I'm drunk!!!* they still fret over their weight. Good job, actor!

      1. Gunner Asch

        I never much liked scrapple what with those elitist rules about your words having to be in the dictionary.

  2. Beetagger

    Nothing brings back those feelings of love like a case of Old Milwaukee and a black eye.

  3. BornInATrailer

    And do it our way, yes our way,
    Make all our dreams come true
    For me and you.

    (unless our way includes burning the roast then it's time for sunglasses shopping)

  4. Biel_ze_Bubba

    The women are already wondering, "Why the hell did I marrry this jerk?"
    No need for Pridemore to encourage them.

    1. actor212

      No no!

      Pridemore wants them, in the split second between the balling of the fist and the broken cheekbone, to close their eyes and remember how he used to dress so sharply and shower before a date, then take them to a nice diner two towns over for some beers and an omelette…so sophisticated, so French!…before he'd drive over to the deserted alley behind the Family Dollar and demand a "blow job or walk home".

  5. Not_So_Much

    He has the look of a man(?) whose greatest dream is taking boy scouts camping. And punishment. Lot's and lot's of punishments.

  6. SorosBot

    Pridemore's wife and kids are just very clumsy, they keep falling down the stairs, totally by accident.

  7. Terry

    Honestly, who votes for these headcases? Other headcases? People who don't bother to learn much about a candidate other than his catch phrases?

    1. freakishlywrong

      It's the (R). They could rape a kid but as long as that (R) is there, it simply doesn't matter.

  8. Goonemeritus

    Speaking as a former Republican (Ford Era) I can’t remember what I loved about those scamps. All I know is right now they are cheating on me with corporations and slap me around every time they come home smelling of big oil.

        1. Doktor StrangeZoom

          These days that tax-raising, talking-to-commies, James-Brady-supporting, phoning-it-in-to-the-Prolife-rally Reagan would be considered a RINO.

        2. Callyson

          I've said this before, but I once told my baby boomer mom that Tricky Dick looks positively sane and rational (save for that unpleasantness about Vietnam and all) compared to today's Reeps. She nearly had an aneurysm, but it's true…

          1. Negropolis

            Also, Watergate. Also.

            He always gets ragged on for Vietnam, but Vietnam in my mind is something I far more associate with Johnson, 'cause I think he actually knew better, and by that I mean that I totally don't believe he wanted to be there, but cynically doubled-down to save face, and that is the kind of betrayal hard to forgive.


      1. James Michael Curley

        And I hope when I get old I don't sit around thinking about it
        but I probably will deny it.

  9. Baconzgood

    I don't like passing this bill. But I'm doing it so you'll learn better. Here's some flowers.

  10. SorosBot

    If this passes, can we officially say Wisconsin has followed in the footsteps of its most famous resident, the Fonz, and jumped the shark?

  11. Chichikovovich

    Has anyone checked on the kids at Pridemore’s place? Hope someone gets around to that.

    I think the site owner will have to give Rebecca a time out.

    1. HistoriCat

      What?? Rebecca is just worried that Pridemore's been working so hard legislatin' that his kids may need a friend. It's all good.

  12. Geminisunmars

    Let's see. Why did I marry him in the first place? Could it be that he knocked me up when I couldn't get contraceptives or a safe abortion?

    1. Nothingisamiss

      And there was no way to get medical insurance because only the mens had jobs? And I was ashamed because I'd always been told that if I used birth control I was a slut and a prostitute?

  13. elgin_pelican

    Well, it was a 1968 TransAm with rust damage and a case of Schlitz…….and the car is on blocks near the driveway, so, yeah, you still got that.

  14. qwerty42

    Is this all part of the Republican Jobs Agenda™? Or is it part of the Freedom Agenda™?

    On a totally unrelated topic: are these guys crazy? Delusional? How in the world did they ever get elected? What is the likelihood they will be re-elected?

    1. HistoriCat

      Almost certainly.
      Voters are complete idiots who pay no attention to what these doofuses say. Potential voters who might actually vote for a sane candidate think it's too much effort to actually vote.
      Waaaay too likely.

      1. Jukesgrrl

        We've already got an R running TV ads in Tucson saying we should vote for him for US Senate (replacing the retiring Kyl). The"qualifications" he describes are just bursts of a dog whistle: Conservative, family man, conservative, business owner, conservative, shares your values, conservative, owns a pick-up (that's a photo), conservative, flag of Arizona (another photo), cue the patriotic music. He can't do a hit ad against the Dem because no one's announced yet. But that will be all we'll see after one does.

      1. chicken_thief

        But such otherwise such a pussy he won't walk into a room in his own house without turning a light on first.

        1. Chichikovovich

          But that's understandable. He mistakenly watched "The Burning Bed" on TV a few years ago because he thought it was about Farah Fawcett-Majors having sexytime. He's been a bit spooked ever since.

  15. valthemus

    Really? REALLY?!? These guys are still pushing the "faithless women" meme after watching Limbaugh get a punch in the balls for trying the same thing? Eve and her apple, Delilah and her scissors, Marie Currie and her radium… did they make these jokers stupid scared of women?

    1. Doktor StrangeZoom

      Actually, Rush Limbaugh was merely attacked by the Eternal Enemy, the Liberal Media (a subsidiary of SatanCorp). Plenty of idiots in the base love this stuff.

    1. Callyson

      Dear Wonkette:
      Can you please add several points to Baconzgood? Because, for this gem, he deserves a large p.

  16. Jerri

    Uh…no. If I may drop the veil of snark for a moment, most women in my family suffered some kind of physical abuse thanks to their husbands. One was even committed to a mental institution by her husband because she tried to leave him and his abuse. Another was told by her psychiatrist something pretty similar to what our man Pridemore is saying here. This was just 30-35 years ago. Luckily, most got out and started new lives. Most.

    So, as a woman, in Wisconsin, with this in my family, I'm triple-angry and having my outrage-induced aneurysm early today.

    Fuck you, Pridemore, also. Just fuck you.

    1. actor212

      Sing it, sister.

      He makes me feel stabby AND shooty.

      Seriously, words can't express the anger I feel at a complete retread (anagram -e) like this dickless fuckhead.

      1. Jerri

        I just cannot believe these people want to drag us (literally, apparently) back to that world. I can't believe the stories my surviving relatives tell, they're so horrible, and I'm glad I can't believe them because it means we live in a society where that shit is unacceptable. At least I thought we did.

    2. Callyson

      Jesus. I'm glad most of your family got out and you are OK, and sorry to hear about the rest…
      That asshole.

      1. Jerri

        Thank you. If anything good came of it, it's that it was ingrained in my generation by our moms/aunts that all that was 100% not acceptable.

        1. fuflans

          i do think they're destroying themselves with this crap.

          now i can't decide if i should vote repub in IL next week. would be fun to fuck with romney, but you remind me of the dangers of these medieval dickweeds.

    3. snoopyfan2010

      I bet these are the same people who said OJ was a bad husband for hitting his wife. Because….you know….

      1. glamourdammerung

        I wish that they would use that, but of course they will not. After all, it might hurt the Republican's widdle feelings and they would have to cry with the media about how partisan everyone else is.

  17. chicken_thief

    *Woman thinking back* He had a job with some future, bought me shit on my birthday and Valentine's Day, and treated me nice.

    Now he sits on his ass, drinks beer, and beats me and the kids at will.

    So, ya, I should just take it because 10 fucking years ago, roses on 2/14.

    1. Doktor StrangeZoom

      Highly relevant. It means the Muslims are really dangerous.

      (They might, after all, outdo Christianists in the Misogyny Olympics)

  18. ManchuCandidate

    He does look like Frank Booth.
    Now we know what Frank does… living in the Wis and writing legislation shitting on women.

    I would not be surprised when he is caught with his pants around his ankles while sucking on a tank of nitrous and shrieking "mommeeeeeeeeeeee!!!"

  19. valthemus

    Gays have been saying to the anti-same-sex marriage crowd, "If you guys care so much about marriage, why don't you do something about the divorce rate instead of picking on us." We had no idea the gay-haters would react like *this*. Sorry, Wisconsin! We owe you dinner or something.

  20. prommie

    Remember, when you beat your wife, the stick can be no wider than your thumb; thats the "rule of thumb."

      1. Chichikovovich

        Forget it, he's rolling.

        And you know the expression "Exception that Proves the Rule"? Doesn't make any sense, right? Well, it's because the meaning of words has evolved. back in those days "Exception" meant "Thumb-sized rod", and "proves" meant "exemplifies".


        1. HuddledMass

          U R rong — "proves" meant "tests" – like in Merriam-Webster

          a: to test the truth, validity, or genuineness of <the exception proves the rule>

          1. Chichikovovich

            [No snark] Actually Merriam – Webster is wrong about that, though the "Exception that tests the rule" interpretation is plausible and I used to believe it myself. In fact it's an old legal use, originally meant to describe a situation in which a law explicitly states some exception – "Dogs are allowed in the building as seeing eye dogs for the blind." The statement of the exception reinforces that there is a rule in place.

          2. Doktor StrangeZoom

            Did you know that there's this gate in Jerusalem called "The Eye Of The Needle" that proves that Jesus didn't think rich guys wouldn't really find it very hard to get into Heaven?

  21. Doktor StrangeZoom

    Hi there, this is your Family Court Services temp receptionist, and I would just like to invite these wankers to come and spend a few days sitting in while I do file reviews. (And no, they DON'T get to make helpful suggestions).

    1. Chichikovovich

      [No snark] I want to say how much I admire the inner strength it takes to do your job. One heartbreaking case after another, I doubt I could handle it myself.

  22. Baconzgood

    Baconz needs the following: A shank of rubber hose full of dimes, a room with no windows, and Don for 1 1/2 hours. Then we'll see how he feels about abuse.

    1. ThundercatHo

      I will be more than happy to donate the dimes and I don't think you'd get much of a workout since this guy, like most bullies, would be crying after about 1 1/2 minutes. But, please feel free to carry on.

  23. MilwaukeeKent

    November, voting booths, walking papers. If there is any justice in the world the GOP will get kicked to the curb. Please.

  24. Doktor StrangeZoom

    Rep. Pridemore has a nice web editorial about his "Families First" bill at "Christian" website:

    He admits that "Although many of us have had concerns about the trend away from marriage, there has been no empirical evidence that we could cite to demonstrate the negative effects that the decline of the American family has had on our society, until recently. The Institute of American Values last year published a first of its kind comprehensive study of the costs of the broken family in America…"

    So, gosh, no empirical evidence until a single study by a group whose name pretty much trumpets its partisan viewpoint. Charming.

    1. Mumbletypeg

      Thanks for sharing. That was my next guess. That this is yet another sterling-plated turd-thought sanctioned and excreted from the bowels of FamilyMatters-type of cretins.

      1. Doktor StrangeZoom

        Actually, he does also note that women often fall into poverty after a divorce. This, is, apparently the fault of women who get divorced, not to deadbeat assholes who refuse to pay their child support…Oh, wait, actually, the deadbeats are the victims–he also cites a screed by a "fathers' rights" group.

        1. Redhead

          Of course they are the victims. I'm sure they're starving without a wimminz to make them a sandwich. No time to cook when you're jerking off and beating on things.

          1. NorthStarSpanx

            When is he indicting Bristol Palin, all out there, boasting about her Life Being a Tripp and all that?

  25. Local_Mojo

    "I don't want to have to write this bill. It hurts me as much as it hurts you, but it's for your own good. Now bring me my pen."

  26. glamourdammerung

    We have gotten to the point where the Republicans are literally advocating wife-beating.

    No wonder they want to keep changing their name to teabaggers or whatever nonsense to try to get folks to forget how completely insane their "policies" are.

    1. Chichikovovich

      That's putting it mildly. The movies about Ed Gein and Jeffrey Dahmer present a more benign side of Wisconsin than this guy.

  27. Redhead

    “There’s been a huge change over the last 30 years, and a lot of that change has been the choice of the women,”

    Translation: We started treating women like actual people and letting them make their own choices and now they're not doing what I tell them to anymore! How do we go back to 1860?

    1. SorosBot

      And those changes have all made the country a better place for them. The bad changes we've undergone have been at the hands of this douchebag's Republican fellow travelers and their friends in big business, dismantling our regulatory system, cutting taxes on the wealthy and government services, and destroying unions.

      1. Gainsbourg69

        This is blasphemous for those who believe in Free Market Jesus and Saint Ronald Reagan.

  28. Beowoof

    Really try to remember when you loved them, let go of the beatings and abuse, he's sorry. Hey Don, sometimes single mothers are single out of need to preserve the lives of themselves and their children. Sometimes, Dad ducks out and won't do anything to help. Did you ever think that the man in the relationship may have some responsibility in why things are working. No of course not your republican and think everything can go back and be like Ozzie and Harriet or Leave it to Beaver. Those shows were fantasy then and a pipe dream that has never existed and will never exist. How did you guys get so lame.

    1. tessiee

      "sometimes single mothers are single out of need to preserve the lives of themselves and their children"

      I would like to make a suggestion that exactly 50% of the time the phrase "single mothers" appears here, that it be replaced with the phrase "deadbeat fathers".

      1. Beowoof

        Amen, I am divorced but never tried to weasel out of my responsibility to my kids. I don't get guys who do that.

  29. ChessieNefercat

    Along with the comments about beer and diners and rusty cars, please always keep in mind that there are plenty of abusers walking around in thousand dollar suits and driving expensive cars and dining only at the finest restaurants and drinking only the very finest wines.

    Being an abusive asshole is not limited to blue-collar schmucks. At all.

    1. Doktor StrangeZoom

      I read a horrifying case study* of a guy who used the court system as a means of harassing his ex–basically filed so many motions that she lost her job due to having to be in court all the time. And I see it happen on a smaller scale fairly frequently.

      *Caution: Here Be Hideous Webpage Formatting.

  30. chascates

    The entire theme of the 2012 election is WOMEN! They are the problem and must be controlled!

  31. ThundercatHo

    Gosh, wouldn't it be a real shame if this guy and all others who abuse women, children and animals died from acute lead poisoning to the head?

    1. tessiee

      "He died of natural causes. His heart stopped beating when five bullets entered it." — the Gang that Couldn't Shoot Straight

  32. WiscDad

    You would not believe the fuckenstein backwardness in Wisconsin. It's like living in an alternate reality of the past. I'm not from here originally and it was quite a culture shock when I moved here 12 years ago. Leave it to fuckin' Beaver lifestyle.

  33. Arishii

    Such a concerted effort to push women's issues to the fore. I smell a red herring. What are they trying to hide?

    1. Isyaignert

      Good question! I think most GOTP men are self-loathing closeted gheys (look how many have been busted) and their carnal desires scare the shit out of them, so they attack, attack, attack. Anything to divert or deny the truth about themselves. These fuks are sick!

  34. Callyson

    “If they can refind those reasons and get back to why they got married in the first place it might help.”
    Um, because they were young enough and/or naive enough to think "He'll change"/"I can change him"
    Because they were desperate to get out of a bad homelife, and did not stop to think whether they were getting into a worse situation
    Because they bought the line that says a woman's worth is determined by the presence of a man in her life
    I could go on, but Christ, these assholes…

    1. tessiee

      For at least the last five or six years, I've been waiting for the Onion to throw up their collective hands and say, "Fuck it. We can't top reality anymore.".

  35. owhatever

    The law is firm, to curb abuse of abusive power. A husband can only beat his wife on Thursday night, because she has probably done something to deserve it during the past week. That gives her two full days to apply makeup, remember why she loves him, and be ready for church.

  36. CivicHoliday

    Well most vows DO end with "till death do us part"…so you know, this bill just assures that death comes sooner rather than later

  37. Isyaignert

    By that fukked-up logic, the abuser should stop and remember what he loves about his victim…nahhhhh, it's way more fun to get drunk, beat up the wife and pass out in a pool of my own sick that I'll make the bitch clean up. Why do RepubliCONS hate women?

  38. Abernathy

    Hey, I just cracked the GOP code!

    "Abusers" = unmarried mothers
    "unloved husbands" = actual abusers
    "choice of women" = having no choice but to stay in an abusive marriage
    "sluts" = women making actual choices

  39. ttommyunger

    the expression on this dick's mug says it all: "Yes, I'm fucked in the head and I'm OK with that.".

  40. Iam_Who_Iam

    Why is the assumption being made that the women (abused or not) are doing the leaving? Aren't the GOP men sorta famous for trading in the old model for a new one while often leaving her with all children he popped in the oven without any financial support? Why aren't they pissing all over these men? Oh, I forgot… Obviously the women did something wrong that forced the men to abandon them. Duh, I keep forgetting that.

  41. Jukesgrrl

    He built up to the wimmin-abusin' gradually. Apparently this is how he earned his chops as a conservat**d: "In 2011, Pridemore sponsored legislation that would allow unlicensed dog breeders to sell four times as many dogs each year. The previous restrictions had been implemented by former Governor Doyle in an effort to prevent 'puppy mills' where dogs live in abusive and neglectful condition." (from Wikipedia)

  42. Jukesgrrl

    I just checked out Pridemore's contributions and other support. You won't be surprised to learn he's supported by something called the Wisconsin Family Action PAC. (Action in the form of a punch in the nose?)

    But all contributions are under $1,000 save one. A company called Zignego gave him $5,000. "Zignego Co. was the big winner in the latest round of federal stimulus bidding as the Waukesha contractor grabbed a $43 million contract for highway work near Madison. The contract is part of the $105.4 million from the federal American Recovery and Reinvestment Act divvied up by the state in late June." (

    Pridemore hates, hates, hates the Federal government, but he's more than happy to help shovel their money to his donors. Pretty good investment on Zignego's part. He also got $500 from both the Milwaukee Police Assn. and the Wisconsin Hospital Assn. In thanks for bringing them a lot of business in the form of spousal abuse?

  43. tessiee

    Oh, if only we'd listened to that guy.
    You guys remember that guy?
    Some douchebag from Pennsylvania or Ohio or someplace?
    Dressed like the sidekick in a Ray Liotta movie?
    Way too much product on his hair?
    And even though you couldn't see it in the picture, you *knew* he was wearing a gold link bracelet.
    Anyways, remember he told us chicks that we needed to be a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom?
    If only I'd listened to that guy.

  44. tessiee

    According to the US Department of Justice, domestic violence accounts of 37% of all female Emergency Room admissions.
    That is all.

  45. swordfis

    A few proposals:

    1. Self-defense classes (women)
    2. US shame database of spousal abusers
    3. No more cynicism about Obama
    4. Chorus of laughing mockers, following each of these cretins (permitted?) around and pointing 24/7

  46. horsedreamer_1

    This impart of Wisconsin being "open for business": give the ladies the business, & all that many more new jobs created for abuse counselors.

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